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Jom majukan diri ! ^^
Assalamualaikum.
Kali ini, pihak multimedome ingin berkongsi satu artikel menarik, berkaitan dengan kehidupan kita seharian; kehidupan dengan manusia.
Dalam hidup, mesti ada masa dan ketika kita perlu minta pertolongan pada manusia lain kan?
Tapi kenapa kerja yang kita minta orang buat tu, sampai hari / masa yang ditetapkan, kerja tu masih belum siap?
Jom baca artikel ni. InsyaAllah, melahirkan insan berjiwa kepemimpinan dalam diri, sesuai dengan hadis Nabi,
"setiap dari kamu ialah pemimpin, dan kamu pasti akan ditanya tentang apa yang kamu pimpin..."
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Get Things Done – Get a Verbal Commitment
Getting your kids to clean their room can be a chore.
Getting your kids to clean their room can be a chore.
Getting your spouse to complete a household task can be hard work.
Getting employees to complete assignments on time can be time consuming.
In general, getting people to do things for you can be frustrating. If you want to get things done, get a verbal commitment. A verbal commitment is a public declaration to act. People who make verbal commitments feel obligated to follow through on their commitments or risk cognitive dissonance or social rejection.
A verbal commitment can be easily obtained by asking commitment questions such as:
A verbal commitment can be easily obtained by asking commitment questions such as:
“Can I count on you?”;
“Promise?”; or
“Do I have your word on that?”
and then wait for an affirmation.
People have a hard time not giving their commitment after having agreed to do something.
Implied commitments can be obtained in more sensitive social and professional situations, but they are less effective because implied commitments do not demand public verbalizations.
Implied commitments include statements such as:
“I know I can count on you”;
“Your word is all I need”; or
“I like you because you always do what you say you’re going to do.”
In some instances, a simple “Thank you” for a task not yet completed can induce an implied commitment.
To further increase the probability that people will follow through with their commitments, shake their hand.
Physical contact cement verbal commitments.
Excuses
Excuses
Word qualifiers such as “We’ll see” (tengoklah dulu~); “I’ll try”; or “I’ll do my best” signal equivocation and serve as escape hatchs for noncompliance.
However, a person who does not complete a task on time can always say
“I did my best to finish the job on time, but I couldn’t do it”
without the fear of social rejection or cognitive dissonance because they did not make a firm, verbal commitment.
Dont give excuses, be assertive. If you cant do a task, say the truth. |
A True Story
I needed my medical records by the end of day for an appointment the following day to obtain a second opinion from a specialist.
The clerk told me that she would try to have them ready by 5 o’clock.
I responded, “Can I have your word that the records will be ready by 5 o’clock?”
She made a firm verbal commitment to have the records ready by 5 o'clock instead of equivacating.
A few minutes to 5 o’clock my beeper went off twice, once from my wife and once from my office.
I called my wife and she told me that she got a call from my doctor’s office.
The clerk told her that my medical records were ready and to make sure that I knew they were ready before 5 o’clock.
I called my office and got the same message.
Without a verbal commitment my records may or may not have been ready, but based on the clerk’s multiple telephone calls and her concern about having them ready before 5 o'clock, indicated her personal commitment to me significantly increased the probability that the records would be ready by 5 o’clock.
When I asked my kids to clean their rooms, I got verbal commitments.
When I asked my kids to clean their rooms, I got verbal commitments.
When I ask colleagues for favors, I get verbal commitments.
When I ask providers of goods or services, I get verbal commitments.
If you want to get things done, get a verbal commitment.
A verbal commitment in nonlegal matters is as good as having it in writing.
- By Jack Schafer, Ph.D. on December 3, 2012 - 9:29am
http://www.psychologytoday.com/
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